By Dr. Annette Colby

Every one of us has the potential to successfully move through the unique problems that face us. Yet, creating success often involves first identifying the many ways in which we continue to think negatively and the many ways we limit ourselves. The next step becomes replacing ineffective strategies^{1 with newer, more empowered self-leadership strategies. Below are five tips to help you weed out negative habits and replace them with positive, supportive behaviors. 大家每一個人都有能力成功地度過各自遇見的各不相同的問題。然而，要成功總是需要第一找到那很多大家一直消極思維和限制自我的方法，然后再用新的更有力的自我領導方案來代替這類無效方案。以下是五個助你鏟除消極思維習慣，打造積極行為的辦法。}

Create Harmony

達成協議

Instead of prodding^{2, poking3, and forcing yourself to make changes, create harmony with the changes you want to make. Envision the life you would like to live and form a rich and rewarding relationship with that life. Build a bridge of loving respect between you and your desire. See your dream as a living, delicate4 entity5 needing your kind attention so that it can grow and take shape. All it takes is your heart and motivation to take pride in what you are creating. You have choice to struggle and be angry about creating change in your life, or you could take a breath and make a new agreement within yourself. Decide to create a phenomenal connection between you and your dream. 不要去敦促、催促、強迫自己做出改變，而是和你要做出的改變達成協議。想象出你期望過的生活，然后形成一種與理想生活之間豐富和有回報的關系。在你和你想獲得的東西之間打造一個愛戴尊重的橋梁。 將你的夢想視作一種有生命的、細致微妙的東西，它需要你的親切關注才能成長。你要做的所有不過是付出真心，為自己所創造的東西感到自豪。 在做出改變時，你可以選擇痛苦掙扎或表示憤怒；或者你可以做一次深呼吸，和自己達成一項新的協定，在你和你的夢想之間創造出一個非常不錯的聯系。}