不敢說不是缺少倡導的典型特點。那樣，應該怎么樣說不呢？

2: It is difficult for me to say no and I often end up taking on tasks that I dont want.

對我來講，說不是一件困難的事。總是最后我挑起的是不想做的任務

Addresses saying no.

怎么樣說不

A classic sign of a lack of assertiveness^{1 is the inability to say no. When you are unable to say no, you lose credibility. You communicate that your time is not valuable and therefore that your contributions are less valuable. When on the other hand you show that you know what you do best and what your limitations are, you exude2 confidence. This doesnt mean that you should say no to everything except those few things you really want to do. It means that you should prioritize and gain practice stating why you are not the person for select jobs. 缺少倡導力的典型特點是不可以說不。 當你辦不到說不，你就失去了可信度。你在表示我們的時間不是寶貴的，也因此你的貢獻也不那樣寶貴。而在相反狀況的狀況下，你表示出了解自己最善于什么，不善于什么。你散發出的是自信。 這并不意味著除去真的想做的事情以外，你對其它所有事情都要說不。這意味著你應當把事情做個優先化處置，并在拒絕指定工作上積累經驗。}

When you say no, dont apologize or over-explain why you are saying no. Take responsibility by using I statements to show where your strengths are best suited. State your reasons clearly and assertively^{3 make your request. 在你說不的時候，無需對為何拒絕道歉或做過多的講解。用我的句子來陳述你的長處，如此也就講解了為何對那些工作說不。表明你的原因，果斷地提出請求。（to be continued）}